There are really some portion of our lives that we think that we have done the right thing. Of course, we can never be sure about our decisions. In fact, it can be right if not wrong.
Me?
I came to the point where I have really realize that I have put myself in great jeopardy. You know what, there’s nothing really more crushing than to know that you have greatly mistaken. Worst case, you tend to think about what if you have done the RIGHT thing. You know what, I haven’t really got into much trouble than in decision making. Specially if its really hard to decide which is which. From time to time, we face crossroads. The sad thing is we don’t really know where does it leads us. So, How do we cope up with it?
If you have come up to a decision and have realized that its not the right thing, keep in mind that you cannot go back to your PAST. “Yesterday ended up last night”, as one of my adviser always told me. Indeed, yesterday ended up last night and we cannot do something about it. The sad thing when we face regrets is that, we tend to think of what-ifs… “OH, WHAT IF I’VE DONE THIS INSTEAD OF THAT.”..”OH,WHAT IF I TOLD HER/HIM ABOUT IT….” WAKE UP!!! You are not doing any better if you just waste your time thinking of what-ifs. It is very important to know that worrying for the past is NOT A WISE THING! AND ITS NOT EVEN FOOLISH… You can’t waste your time if your facing regrets. You need to face the reality that the only thing that you can change right now is your present and your future (and nothing else.)
You need to think of the things that you can and can’t do. You really need to think of ways to pacify this situation/problem/(whatever you may call it!) that you think somehow would work. If a thing is possible yet you don’t the courage to do it. Keep in mind that you’re facing this regret simply because you beforehand don’t have the courage to do the right thing in the first place. You can buy another REGRET and have TWO REGRETS! That’s SUICIDE! SO if you face a choice which you don’t think you can do,, just try to remember what I told you. “TWO REGRETS IS A SUICIDE!”.
Secondly, you need to stop thinking of crazy things that is impossible for you to do like being like superman, spidee, or like a god/goddess. Come’on wake up! Its not time for fantasy!! You Have At least A BIG problem to face!Don’t waste time. Its KINDA LATE TO EDIT your MISTAKES, But ITS JUST THE RIGHT TIME TO MAKE A GOOD SHOT! Well, after you have figured out the things that you can do. Don’t do you first move yet! You need to find out which should come first before you do something. Fruits come by its season, and don’t rush things out. Remember you’ve just messed up your life. You cannot afford to maKE another mess! After sorting things out, you need find ways where in you atleast make the things that you can do. Always remember, action creates reaction. When you have the best time to do a thing, Do it! Don’t wait for somebody to tell you what to do! Do it! Opportunity comes once and no more, you should make use of it! Then you’ll see the results! Well, you may find things on your list that made the tear grow worst. Don’t dwell on it, atleast you know that it made things grow worst! Charge it to experience and don’t do it again. That’s the best thing that you can do! I guess I’m done discussing about how to fix a mess.
Well, how about making a decision? Good question!!
Usually when you are faced with a tough decision-making scenario, we tend to think about things both-ways. In my experience, I always think about what will happen if I chose to do this rather than that. And there’s no problem with that! That’s the very first thing that you need to do. It will help you, if you do it realistically! Don’t fantasize! Well, sometimes decisions can be made in this stage. If you are decided at this stage, then good for you! But you may need to rethink things, you might as well have overlooked some things here. Be conscious on small details. Just like on a painting, small details make it stand out! In decision making,a very small detail is something really big. Just watch out! IF you are not yet confident on your decision, that’s okay! That only means that you are a great thinker. If you are really confident, it is best for you to consider things yet. Don’t rush on you decision! Wrong decisions leads to somewhere you may not wanna go. So, don’t be impulsive! If somebody pushes you to decide right now. The best answer is always what he/she don’t want to hear! reverse psychology!
So, whats next? Next, You need to seek wise counsels! That could be your mother, father, anybody older than you that you think is wiser than you! More experienced maybe. It maybe somehow difficult to share something to your parents, specially with regards to this one. But you know what, whatever you have encountered today, they’ve experienced it yesterday! The world turns around, thats why life is round. Everything that have happened will repeat itself. Trust me! It is much wiser to seek counsels to your parents simply because of this fact, aside from knowing you more than any human being! You may or may not agree what they say to you. But in most cases, they are right. Just consider the facts and the details that thay saw, those things might the things that you yourself have overlooked. Most of us, teens, really have a problem when it comes to dealing with our parents. I should admit, sometimes the words that they speak really breaks my heart. In some ways, the things that they say is true. In most cases, it just hard for us to understand their point. Sometimes, my pride just burst in me like a wild man, if that happens to you. Take good control of yourself. Don’t burst out like the man inside you, but rather try to see and understand their point. If they use words that hurts. Thats okay! Just try to see what they see. Then starting in that point on, things will start to go different. Trust me, its a good start to build your integrity in their own eyes.
You can also seek counsels aside from you parents, that’s if just can’t get along with them. Try to speak to a person you know that is wiser than you. BUt, don’t try to take the suggestions of your friends. I’m not saying that your friends can’t help you, though in most cases, yes they cannot. Most of the times you will like what you will hear from them. But just try to see what will happen to you if you chose to do that!
Well, when it comes to tough decision making, there are a lot of things to consider. One of them would be your tomorrow. MOst of the youngsters thinks of only for today, and that’s okay. Indeed, it is really healthy to dwell on whats currently happening in our lives. For who knows tomorrow? Yet, the sad thing is that, each day would soon be ended up. Whether you like it or not, you need to face your tomorrow whatever it is. YOU need not to be scared about your tomorrow. The truth is that, your tomorrow will just be a product of what you chose to be in this present day. Well, if just messed up your life, don’t worry. You can still change your future by changing it right at this very moment! NO things to be scared just do what is right.
IT iS noT really HArd, it looks hard because you think its hard.
IT’s a just little right movement from your body and thats it! A good move! Just remember for each time that you have some difficulty doing a single right thing, a single right thing that you’ve done today would somehow affect your tomorrow. There’s no harm in doing the right thing, difficulty maybe.
Well, at this point, we can be able to see where are we going, which path should we take.Thinking for tomorrow and not only for today will really help you find your way out of trouble. I guarantee you! For sure, you do not wanna be in trouble aren’t you?
Aside form that perspective, the next thing that you should try to consider would be the possibility of your dream. Ofcourse! ALL of us have a dream! But we vary in our hope to achieve it. I can see some doing great things in order to achieve their dreams. And they are doing a really great JOb.
But, most of the times, what I could see a lot of people with great hopelessness that lies on their mind.
COme’on wake up! yOur dreams aren’t impossible enough for you not to achieve it. you could even try to ask yourself, “Is it impossible?” ” Well, if it is possible for somebody, why is it impossible to you?” Keep in mind that you are the same human being. The same chemicals which builds us you up. The same kind of cells are working within us. And the same kind of brain, muscle, nerves.. etc! No reason at all for you not to achieve whatever is it that you want to achieve. You have everything! Use these everything to achieve whatever is it that you want to achieve.
OH, I can always hear the reasons and alibis of people not striving to get what they want.
Oh, look at the maimed, I can see a maimed man that plays piano by his feet.
Oh, how I appreciate the man with no hands and feet but can swim.
Or, how would you consider a man who ha only 3 fingers that can play the guitar well.
If they are able to those incredible things, why do you think it is impossible to happen to you?
Gather some hope for yourself from these hopeful persons. There is no such thing as impossible.
Last thing, sometimes both of the roads almost the same. That’s where it is hard to decide. Well, what I do is just. Pick a road and stick to it.
Be strong enough to stand on the path that you’ve chosen. NO MATTER HOW WE THINK OF THINGS OVER AND OVER, AFTER YOU HAVE DECIDED THIS THINGS WILL ALWAYS BE TRUE:
1. YOU CHOSED A PATH, AND CHANGING YOUR MIND BY THIS TIME WOULD GREATLY AFFECT YOUR LIFE.
2. EXCEPT IF YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND, BY THIS TIME, YOU WILL NOT KNOW WHAT AWAITS YOU ON THE OTHER PATH. AND IT IS NEVER WISE TO THINK OF SOMETHING WHICH IS NONE.
So, if ever you’ve face real-tough-decision-making situation, it is always good to think of which will be your choice. But don’t spoil your time thinking of a decision that you would formally announce for a few seconds only. Sometimes, it is even wiser to take the hardest path than forever be afraid of taking it.
To make the story short. You can always think and decide. BUt you can also decide and then think. Sounds fOolish but it does make sense.
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